My wife was talking to her X on face book?

While going over a security lesson with my 12 yr old we linked through her facebook account to my wifes prohile. I noticed sever hugs and kisses and an application called zoosk installed. On her friends list I recognized the name of the guy she lived with 17 years ago (we have lived together for 17 years). I hacked into her account and found that it was a highschool friend sending her hugs - not the X. However there were a lot of conversations with her X for the past 3 months and they were planning to get together for a drink to catch up.





Was I wrong to break into the account and should I blow my top at the idea of them saying to each other they would like to get together to catch up??????

My wife was talking to her X on face book?
Were you wrong?





That's a tough question. It does show a lack of trust but in this case, it looks like this was happeneing behind your back.





Unfortunately, you've stumbled onto something that needs to be addressed.





I think you need to apologize to her, tell her what you did and then tell her what you found.





If she understands your concern, then you should be good to go. If she turns this into some BS about invading her privacy start looking for a divorce atty.
Reply:Maybe it was wrong, maybe it was an accident. Nonetheless she would feel obligated to snoop into your account if you were talking to someone you once were in love with.


I would let her go. Keep getting into her account and let them meet up and see if she lies to you about it. Catch her in the act so she can't throw that whole *you were spying on me* crap in your face. But don't blow your cover just yet, you don't have enough to go on. And maybe she's just telling him she wants to meet up but doesn't have any intentions to, it is possible it is harmless. Don't stress too much about it though.


good luck
Reply:i think that you need to talk to her.
Reply:Yes of course it was wrong to hack in. How hard is it for you to be an adult and tell her hey, I was teaching our kid some safety stuff online and saw your page with your ex as a friend, do you still talk to him? And then she should be an adult and tell you hey I talked to my ex. Adults need to be adults and just be up front, ask the tough questions already. If she was really trying to be sneaky I don't think she would have him as a facebook friend. You need to tell her what you did.
Reply:Privacy bro. Now that you know what are you going to do? Being friends is not out of the question.
Reply:You should absolutely flip out!! Id hate to think what my husband would do!!! She is your wife and Im not saying she is your property or anything but you have a right to know everything she does. I think shes up to no good!!
Reply:I would be leary if she hasn't mentioned it to you. How would she react if the situation were reversed?
Reply:Tell the truth has you did here about what you were doing and then ask her how she would feel about you catching up with old flame?
Reply:You really should talk to her about how this whole thing makes you feel, you have the right to feel uncomfortable with the idea of her going out and "Catching up" but the whole hacking in to her account thing wasn't so cool, you could have talked to her about it first.